Xiong Ling: One who fights against her own shadow

 Xiong Ling: One who fights against her own shadow

A lady, she has to check the windows and natural gas shut repeatedly before going out every day, and lock it several times after closing the door. She knows its not necessary, but she just cant control it. She attributed herself to being too timid and taking things too seriously.

It can be seen that she grew up uncontrollably under strict control. In her childhoods neuro-memory bank, there are full of only allowed, no allowed, must and should exhortations, which will guide her to be a good person; in her childhoods emotional memory, there are full of emotional experiences of tension, fright, doubt, uncertainty and anxiety, which are The emotional element of insecurity in her heart is the factor that makes her over-sensitive, introspective, timid and other personality factors. They will accumulate into a complex of fear or inferiority, which invisibly and chronically dominates a persons later behavior. For example, in her future interpersonal contacts, she will be particularly sensitive to other peoples views and afraid of others. (especially a somewhat aggressive person) hurts himself. The act of forcing sex between doors and windows shows her fear of being threatened and being afraid of aggression. By repeatedly closing doors and windows, she unconsciously expresses her desire for security, and at the same time replaces the need for security and stability. Therefore, her deep-seated anxiety, uncertainty, and the idea that she must be serious, do well, and not make mistakes are the spiritual motivation to force her to close the door repeatedly and check repeatedly.

Many peoples alcoholism, Internet addiction, autism, depression and so on are formed in this way. Including those who are addicted to collections, cleanliness and material dependence, they are eager to get rid of strange behavior but cant. It seems that they lack self-control and are controlled by their addiction, but in essence they are repressed by their possession desire and sexual desire, which must be kept clean, clean and chaste. Concepts are constrained and forced.

Many peoples compulsive distress in life is precisely due to the long-term high level of tension. Therefore, the fundamental way to alleviate pain is to cultivate an independent belief and personality. Of course, the first thing we need to do is to correctly recognize honor, success, frustration, resentment, conceit and illusion; to identify the gap between ideal self and real self; to realize self-ideal, we need some conditions at present, such as not having them. Dont be reluctant; accept the limitations of personality and the failure caused by limitations; accept the ordinary and enter the reality.