Recently, a popular word on the Internet, called fraudulent corpse parenting, has punctured the tears of many middle-aged and old mothers, and many Baomas call them too sincere.
If his wife protests a few words, he can prevaricate in one sentence. I want to earn money to support my family, which time to do housework with the children.
And the biggest characteristic of child raising is that his father is a pig mate. His absent childs life has become normal, but he still needs to bubble up from time to time, pretending to be a competent father.
For example, he would say, Why is the child sick again? Why dont you give him more clothes? How can childrens academic performance fail? How did the childs vision drop again?
When Invisible Dad asked these questions, the situation was like a leader who suddenly checked posts. Apart from blaming and complaining, there was no trace of understanding and tolerance.
This is the way of fraudulent corpse-rearing. They dont bring up their own children, and they cant get used to the way their wives raise their children. It not only affects the relationship between parents and children, but also the relationship between husband and wife.
After Xiaojuans second birth, her husband, Wang Yang, moved directly to the guest room to sleep, completely turning into a shotgun.
Then holding the baby in one hand and keeping the lunch in the electric cooker in the other hand, Wang Yang hides himself in the study and cheats the corpse. No matter how Xiaojuan calls him to hold Xiaobao, he just ignores it.
When he eats, Wang Yang will come out and watch his cell phone while eating, regardless of the childrens affairs.
Xiaojuan asked Wang Yang not to play with his mobile phone and talk with his children about his studies. Wang Yang then blew his beard and stared at him. I was so tired at work, and I wanted to relax when I came back. Dont bother me!
One day, Xiao Juan was changing his homework for Da Bao. Xiao Bao, who was asleep, turned over and fell into bed. He cried in pain. Wang Yang began to accuse Xiao Juan again. How did you become a mother? You have no sense of responsibility at all!
When the night was quiet, Xiaojuan sat there alone after coaxing her child to sleep.
Over the years, Xiaojuan took care of her childrens lives by herself and devoted herself to her family. In return, her husband and mother-in-law despised her.
Xiaojuan said that she is now experiencing three torments: asexual marriage, widowed marriage and fraudulent parenting, but what makes her most painful is fraudulent parenting. The children are seriously lack of fathers love, which is not conducive to their growth.
I know there is a problem, why do men not want to go home at the first time after work, but prefer to sit in the car for an hour in silence.
He just wants to digest the pressure from the outside and return home to give his family a smile.
If a man can come home at the first time after work, accompany his children to do homework, talk, help his wife to cook, wash dishes and chat about the latest situation, it will be better than a person stuffy in the car alone.
I remember an emotional program. My husbands way to work is very close to the childrens kindergarten. My wife asked him to get up five minutes early every day to send the children to school.
The husband disagreed. He would rather sleep for five minutes than send his children to school. In desperation, the wife had to carry Xiaobao herself and take a long bus to send Dabao to school. Every time, she was tired.
Later, Xiao Bao became ill, and his wife asked her husband to drop the children off to school at work. The husband reluctantly sent the children to school. As a result, he was late and was fined 50 yuan.
When he came back, he scolded his wife for being too selfish. The wife said that he would not be late as long as he got up five minutes early. The husband accused his wife of being unkind. Which family is not the mothers responsibility for the children?
There was a warm applause, and the woman shed grieving tears.
Men are always used to distinguishing family and career clearly. In essence, they think that women should have a good family, and men only need to earn money to support their family.
The problem is that most men dont have the ability to support their families by themselves, which leads to the fact that many women now have to take care of both their children and their families.
Men often cheat on corpses. They cant count on parenting at all. They often miss parentsmeetings and holidays.
Sun Yunxiao, chief expert of family education at China Youth Research Center, believes that parents should have a natural division of labor because of their different physiological characteristics: mothers are better at intimacy with their children, while fathers are better at cultivating their childrens independence.
In the period of infants and young children, mothers care and nurturing should be the main part; but from the beginning of school, the proportion of fathers education and instruction should gradually increase; in the middle school period, fathers education for children should exceed mothers.
In China, fraudulent carnage has become the norm. Whether its a childrens paradise or a variety of tutoring classes, Dad has become a scarce creature.
Most children play with their mothers in various interest classes and remedial classes. Teachers are also used to communicating with their mothers.
Experts point out that a childs growth without fathers involvement, until the child reaches the rebellious period, it will be more than three times more difficult than other children.
Ive written an article before calling on dads to spend more time with their children. Many dads leave messages saying that there is no time to spend with their children if they want to earn money from work.
In fact, whether a person has time depends mainly on whether he has the heart or not. When he has two hours a day to play with his cell phone, he will definitely be able to squeeze out one hour to accompany his children.
As the father of two daughters, I know that being a father is one of the most important jobs for any man, Obama said in a statement.
In Obamas view, fatherhood is no less important than being president.
A study in the United States shows that more than 70% of criminals in the United States come from families lacking paternity. This shows how important fatherly love is for children.
The ancients said that it was not the fault of the godfather. Dont think that leaving the child to the mother would be all right. Research has proved that the father has an advantage over the child in the sense of responsibility, discipline and law-abiding, courage and stubbornness, and other personalities related to independence.
Sun Yunxiao, an education expert, said that childrens growth is a one-way train, which is totally irreversible.
If the father does not establish a close attachment with the child before the age of 12, the childs future sense of security and happiness will be affected.
Especially for fraudulent fathers, you missed the best time to accompany their children, and its very difficult to make up for it in the future.
If a child calls your dad, you have the responsibility to educate him, not to let him grow up freely. It will hurt you in the future.
I am a kindergarten teacher. I have ten years of experience in kindergarten education. Today I want to share with you how fathers can accompany their children to grow up.
1. Take more exercise with your children. Father is more suitable for taking children outdoor sports, playing football, basketball, running are very conducive to the growth of childrens sports, physical fitness can also enhance father-son feelings.
2. Come home immediately after work. The golden time for father and children is before dinner. During this time, father can play a game with children, chat with them and interact with their parents, which is conducive to cultivating their good character.
3. Put down your cell phone in front of your child. Some dads take their children with them. They always like to play with their cell phone while perfunctory, or watch their cell phone with their children. This will not only hurt the childrens eyes, but also affect the childrens brain ability, low-quality companionship is not conducive to childrens physical and mental health.
4. Father should teach children to be brave. In families where mothers take their children by themselves for a long time, children are always cowardly and timid. Daddy should teach them to be brave, strong, responsible, courageous and forward, which is the meaning of Daddy accompanying their children.
5. Actively tutor childrens homework. Father should accompany the children to do homework, the children do not understand the timely answers, rather than pushing the mother to supervise. Practice has proved that the father accompanies the children to learn, can better develop childrens good learning habits.
I hope dads can achieve the above five points. Dont say how busy you are with your work anymore. Remember, no success can make up for the failure of education.
No matter how busy you are, even if you spare 15 minutes a day to accompany your child, if you persist for half a year, you will find that the child will really become more and more sensible.
I remember once I asked my child, what do you think a good father should be like? The baby said milkly, put down the cell phone and hug me. At that moment, I was in tears.
I think the real good husband will not be invisible, and the good father will never cheat the corpse.