My little nephew had hardly reached the full moon when my sister sent my mother and her mother-in-law home.
The culprit is my mother, and my grandmother is an accomplice.
My mother dotes on her children. My little nephew is just in the first grade. Its a tough time.
Say how tired the children are when they get home. They have a days lesson. Eat some fruit, watch TV and write homework evening.
This delay, many times do not write.
Well, lets put it another way. Its really out of breath.
Because of the childrens homework problems, the father sent his mother to the hospital.
It can be seen that the differences in education are not only in my family, but also a common problem.
Why do you have to listen to your mother?
In fact, more accurately, the person who takes the most children, is responsible for the children, has the concept of scientific parenting, and is willing to learn constantly, can become the highest officer of parenting at home.
If this person is a father or an old man, of course it can be, but in real life, this person is mostly a mother.
For example, many mothers, who control their childrens chocolate consumption, are afraid that their children are too fat and rotten teeth, which is responsible for their children.
But many old people will stealthily feed their children to soothe their crying, or simply to make them happy.
This is to teach children to cheat ah, if the mother asked him to eat, he would say not eat choke.
You say its annoying?
If the old man looks after the children most, can not spoil, is responsible for the children, and has the ability to learn scientific parenting, then listening to the old man is of course the best.
But the ideal is very full, the reality is very skeletal, such old people are not common ah.
Not to mention, in the current Chinese society, the situation that father takes more dolls than mother is very rare.
As in the news, husbands dont want to educate their children at all. They are violent. We need to discuss whether marriage is necessary to continue, not how to educate their children.
Therefore, under the premise that everyone is responsible for their children, with educational differences, it is better to listen to the mother.
You know, a mother faces a bear child every day, grinding her lips 10,000 times and breaking down her emotions 1,000 times before she educates a good habit.
At this time, family members singing the opposite tune, once the previous efforts were discarded.
Mother: Do you want to be dressed for you when you go to kindergarten? No one will wear it for you. Wear it for yourself.
Child: I dont like you anymore. I want grandpa.
Child: Dad dresses me, Grandma dresses me too, so you dont dress me, just you, Dad, Dad (louder than a wolf)...
Child: Daddy, Daddy, Daddy, dress me!
The child is very clever. If the rules are broken once, he knows he can bargain.
In addition to childrens playing and breaking good habits, in fact, the most important thing is the cultivation of childrens right and wrong outlook.
In childrens eyes, even if what parents say is true, they will unconditionally identify with it and regard it as their own criterion.
No matter how right you feel about your educational methods, you cant disagree with your children.
Because the best way to educate in the world is to use one method for the whole family.
There is no parenting method.
The United Front of Education aims to prevent family quarrels and give clear guidance to children.
Many times, people feel that they are right to each other, it is very difficult to listen unconditionally.
So there is a second way.
That is, there is no disagreement in front of the children. If they disagree with each others education methods, they will find a quiet place to discuss the compromise plan.
Better compromise with each other than destroy family harmony.
The right way to raise children is not worth destroying family harmony.
People always have some shortcomings, some eccentricities, as long as the general direction of education is right, children will not make mistakes.
Occasionally a little bit different, but also do not have to rush to kill.
In fact, children learn to face different people, there are a little different coping methods, is a good skill.
For example, snacks before meals lead to a lack of food.
Add to that the destruction of learning habits.
If children let it go on like this, they will be far away.
1. Let husband play a role
The effect is good. If you kiss your son, the old man is still willing to listen.
Whose parents do it.
Dont go blind on your own, its easy to wipe guns and fire. You think youre communicating with childrens education, and the old people think youre finding fault. Its hard to talk about it together.
2. inadvertently give popular science to the elderly
Some popular science articles with serious consequences can also be forwarded frequently.
For example, to tie sleeves with leather bands, resulting in amputation of childrens limbs.
Serious consequences, can immediately eliminate some bad habits.
Old people love their children.
Take my neighbor for example.
Because Mom really never compromised.
No matter what kind of treatment the children are given to grandparents.
As long as you go home, you must obey the rules at home.
Strengthen their role, do their best, try to teach children well.
Father considers his mothers family
Only the happiest
I know, when I look at it, someone may ask.
Listen to Mom? Mum must be right?
Although I have explained this problem above, in order to prevent people from forgetting and being sprayed.
Let me say one more thing:
If there is another person in the role, listen to that person.
For example, How do you educate your children? Lets listen to you. Look at the result!
Education is to find the best solution in trial and error, not to make no mistakes, and the hardest people should not be blamed.
Finally, let me remind you:
Dont listen to your mother, understand everything to your mother, you can make your own shotgun.
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