When people are confused..... If, on the basis of what the ancients said,Stand at thirty and dont be confused at forty, they tend to refer to people before thirty years of age; and if, again, people are confused referring to career and emotional confusion (these are the two major events of life), then, what should I do when people are confused? The answer is: nothing. It can also be answered as follows: nothing else can be done, or something should be done. What can I do? (1) Stopping and thinking when people are confused, they cant do anything at all. If they ask what should be, then they should: 1) Dont blame themselves for doing things, let alone not blame themselves for not doing things well. 2) Stopping means slowing down a fast-paced life, letting go of blind or meaningless things, and allowing yourself to rest and recuperate. 3) Thinking means reflection and self-reflection: what makes me confused, what are my interests, what are my strengths, what are my potential and what are my practical abilities? In a word, what are you excluding from yourself and what do you want? Why? How do I get there? On these issues, make clear thinking. Modern people, often appear tired, unhappy reasons, it is unable to stop in a hurry, but can not find themselves. Therefore, when people are confused, they should stop and think.
(2) When confused, people feel bad when they are confused. Conflicts, anxiety, worry, confusion, procrastination, decadence and so on alternately emerge. What we should do at this time is to learn to deal with emotions, that is, to understand and allow bad feelings, to accept bad emotions; when confused, you cant make decisions without making decisions, and you cant make any decisions. That allows oneself to be confused, simply with confusion. People can not experience the taste of the bottom of the valley without confusion in their lifetime, and they will not know what is the pleasure of chasing in the direction. (3) When confused, to live with confusion is to say that you cant find your own goal in life, that is, what you like to do or who you like, or the direction of your goal. If people are in a period of emotional confusion, they cant make any decisions. Its not suitable for them to stay at home at this time. Its better to do the work or things they have to do with confusion, loss, helplessness and other emotions. Of course, if you say you are not in the mood to do it, please accept that you are closed and confused. One day, when you dont want to continue hugging pain, you can do something or work first. When emotions are digested in the investment of life, emotional desire will rise automatically.
If a person is confused in his career, he can not and cannot make a decision, because he lacks the goals that belong to his interests and abilities, but this does not prevent him from working for his survival. And one day, there will be things that you recognize, accept, and like to do - goals - directions. But the premise is that we need to live with confusion and self-seeking mentality. Of course, if you dont worry about money, you can stay at home and ask yourself: What do I really want and what is the direction of my life? Perhaps, what not to do, all day long just thinking, fantasy, fantasy, thinking, this is when people are confused, there should be a kind of life.