Do you know how much you care about other peoples feelings?

 Do you know how much you care about other peoples feelings?

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There is a saying called Tweeting in Weibo and playing dead in the circle of friends. In fact, most of this sentence can explain the social status of many young people, punching in Weibo and dealing with social intercourse. In the circle of friends, they can interact with hot spots and send out their latest status. These netizens are like this in the circle of friends:

In Weibo, however, he changed into a delighted sand sculpture netizen.

Some people say that Weixin is just to maintain the necessary social relations, but in the absence of a large number of friends, leaders, family members in the microblog is the territory to release nature. Some people may send dozens of microblogs a day, but remain silent in the circle of friends. What is the reason?

The influence of social roles prevents us from presenting ourselves in the circle of friends.

Why do we often feel free and free when we use Weibo, and feel bound when we want to say something in Weibo? One of the factors is that we have a large number of acquaintances and frequently contacted colleagues and leaders in our micro-letters. When facing them, we tend to take into account our position and consideration in society, our social status and other peoples reactions to ourselves, so we tend to be a good image; but there are no acquaintances in micro-blog. Layers of restraint, no longer according to the expectations of others to adjust their own behavior and shape their own image, we can confidently express their feelings and feelings boldly. Show your true self. So I feel like Im acting in the circle of friends, and Weibo is the real me.

Self-expression of the true words only to true friends

In addition to our desire to show the good side to each other in our contacts, sometimes we also show different sides to each other according to their different social roles and different degrees of familiarity. In microblogs without a large number of acquaintances, we tend to show people open self rather than the real self, which is just a kind of self-expression of appearance. In the circle of friends that we are very familiar with each other, we tend to show little about ourselves; on the one hand, between people who make a living and close friends, the two aspects we want to show are naturally different.

Anonymity and de-individualization

As we all know, anonymity is the most unstable factor in the network environment, which is why we have been promoting the real-name system. Because of anonymity, our social identities in the network can be hidden from each other, and we cant touch a persons real information as offline, which leads to the decline of self-control ability and self-consciousness of individuals in this network group, which may lead to some atypical behaviors.

Because of the anonymous interaction with others in micro-blog, the lack of presence in interpersonal communication leads to the decline of individual self-awareness, which leads to some so-called standing and talking without backache remarks. Also in the anonymous social media like Weibo, we will reduce our self-control, and reduce our awareness of our social status, so as to make greater self-disclosure on the basis of anonymity.

Finally, I would like to say that although we really show different self in Weibo and Weibo, this is not a bad phenomenon. Only through the anonymous self-disclosure of Weibo, can we get the negative energy in our hearts to be poured out, and can we better conduct a good healthy personality. As long as we can distinguish our social status and find the right position, what is self-talk on Weibo?

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