Is it reasonable for Asian women to be single?

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 Is it reasonable for Asian women to be single?


Recently, Dr. Qian Yue of Columbia University once again talked about the topic of Why are we married in a speech platform. In the speech, she enumerated the proportion of unmarried women of 30-34 year old women in some Asian countries in forty years, like Chinas Taiwan region rising from 2% in 1970 to nearly 40%; South Korea has increased from 1% to close to 30%. This data in mainland China is not that amazing, rising from 1% to 5%. Perhaps the Chinese society may also face a sharp rise in the age of 30-34 year old unmarried singletons. Is this phenomenon of singleton in various countries and regions reasonable? In fact, nothing is unreasonable. If marriage is a right, and right means to choose, or not to choose, and the way of life, of course, is an inseparable part of the right to marriage. Marriage is a kind of institutional arrangement of human society. It plays a vital role in maintaining and linking social relations in the long history of human society. The family formed by marriage is also the basic unit of the traditional society. From a psychological point of view, marriage is not based on the gene of natural evolution, but a mystery rice based on Cultural Development (the unit of cultural inheritance). That is, it is a product of social culture and a social organization developed under the specific social development stage and cultural norms. Since marriage is not based on human nature, from the perspective of human diversity, some human beings are not suitable or suitable for marriage. In todays society, compared with the traditional society, the understanding of human nature and the diversity of human behavior patterns can be maximized tolerance and acceptance. Therefore, the individuals who are not suitable for or adapted to their marital life do not have to bear the conservative and despotic moral and social norms of the past, and accept the form of marriage in violation of their heart, and they can freely choose to adapt themselves to their single lifestyle without any sense of violation. From a psychological point of view, the essence of marriage is to establish a close relationship between partners. Whether or not a person needs or accepts this intimate relationship depends largely on his attachment. The experience of secure attachment naturally creates and maintains a partnership; obsessive attachment individuals constantly seek to establish a partnership, but continue to struggle with the anxiety of losing their relationship; the fear dependent individuals yearn for the relationship, but they are worried about being injured and hesitant. These three types of attachment are willing to establish partnership with hope. But for the alienated attachment, there is no need for a partner to rely on, neither to rely on others, nor to rely on themselves, they enjoy their single life, and therefore happy. Moreover, for many excellent women, traditional marriage actually hinders their achievement in social life. Most social cultures require women to take more roles in marriage and family, and they also have to go through the responsibilities of pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, and the main nurturing of children. With the popularity and development of contraception and womens education, it seems advisable for women who are willing to work for careers or other life goals to choose single life to avoid the mire of marriage - not only their rights. Therefore, it is not difficult to understand that for a modern excellent woman, the value of marriage has long been different from that of a traditional society, by setting up a social role that women are encouraged and appreciated by institutionalized marriage; marriage is not only the two companionable relationship, in order to eliminate emotional loneliness. Worryu3002 Now the value of marriage is more based on personal self growth, and the choice of marriage is because marriage can achieve better self, and in fact, it can make a better choice. Im afraid not only one marriage. Dr Qian asked, why do we get married? should we really think that marriage makes us better ourselves? Source: Tang Yinghong, editor in chief of Beijing News: Ji Ke _b6492 Moreover, for many excellent women, traditional marriage actually hinders their achievement in social life. Most social cultures require women to take more roles in marriage and family, and they also have to go through the responsibilities of pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, and the main nurturing of children. With the popularity and development of contraception and womens education, it seems advisable for women who are willing to work for careers or other life goals to choose single life to avoid the mire of marriage - not only their rights. Therefore, it is not difficult to understand that for a modern excellent woman, the value of marriage has long been different from that of a traditional society, by setting up a social role that women are encouraged and appreciated by institutionalized marriage; marriage is not only the two companionable relationship, in order to eliminate emotional loneliness. Worryu3002 Now the value of marriage is more based on personal self growth, and the choice of marriage is because marriage can achieve better self, and in fact, it can make a better choice. Im afraid not only one marriage. Dr Qian asked, why do we get married? should we really think that marriage makes us better ourselves?